Frequently Asked Questions

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1.What can I expect from the first session?
The initial appointment offers you a confidential and supportive space in which to to talk without being judged or given advice, to identify the issues which are concerning you, and to discuss what you would like to achieve from the counselling process. Importantly the initial session also helps you to consider whether you feel that you would be able to work with me. I also use the session to determine whether I am the best person to support you at this stage, and, indeed, whether counselling is appropriate at this point in your life.

You may feel ready to commit to further work at this stage, in which case, we will agree a number of sessions, or, if we decide to work in an open ended way, we may agree a date to review our work together. It often makes sense, particularly for couples, to consider whether or not you want to proceed. In this case, I will ask you to contact me to arrange further appointments as appropriate.
2. Will you advise me what to do about my problem?
No. Counselling is not concerned with giving advice. However, the counselling process can help you to develop your own insights and to work towards your own solutions, through helping you to put things in perspective or to consider your options before reaching a conclusion about priorities. At times, I might suggest ways to experiement with experiencing or behaving differently in order to gain another perspective. We will work together to understand your postion and to evaluate any strategies which might make sense.

Perhaps the hardest thing to come to terms with is the fact that therapeutic work involves you doing the work yourself. Whilst I will support you and explain what might be happening, I cannot do the work for you. It will be you who does the remembering, feels all the feelings and makes all the changes.
3. Will you disclose the content of my sessions to anybody else?
The short answer is, "No", but there are can be exceptions  to this general rule. In order to ensure that I work safely and effectively I attend regurlar supervision sessions as stipulated by my professional body. This incolves discssing my work with an experienced colleague in order to ensure that I am working safely and competently.

Child protection and anti-terrorism legislation can set limits to confidentiality, and, in extreme circumstances, I might conclude that a commitment to your well-being might mean that it would be useful to involve others. If I felt that I might need to do this I would discuss the matter with you.
4. What are your fees?

    Sessions for individuals cost £40
    Sessions for couples cost £60

I have a limited number of sessions available at a reduced cost. Please contact me to discuss.
5. How many sessions will be needed?
This depends on the issue which brings you to counselling. With very specific issues, especially those of recent onset, it is likely that up to six sessions will be sufficient to work in a solution focused manner in order to address your concerns. Where there are more enduring difficulties, which affect a number of areas of your life, it may be that longer term work will be useful. In this case, I would normally agree to work with you for a couple of months, after which we would review your progress towards achieving your aims before agreeing additional work as necessary. With the Rewind Technique the vast majority of suffers  experience a significant reduction in their symptoms following the first session . It is  likely that we will only work together for two or three sessions in Rewind work.

I  am experienced in working in  a brief manner, in long term or open-ended work, and in work of a few months, as is appropriate.
6. How frequently will sessions be held?
In general terms, I see individuals on a weekly basis on the same day and at the same time each week, but this might vary, particularly in longer term work which is drawing to a close. In this case, it may make sense to have a break in order to evaluate progress and to experience a period without weekly support.  We would agree a date to review progress, before deciding whether further work was necessary.

Work with couples might take place on a fortnightly basis in order to give you the chance to experiment with alternative ways of communicating or behaving, before reviewing progress with me.

Often, when work seems complete, it is useful to return, for, what might be, a one-off session, in order to discuss what has been achieved, and whether you are still maintaining any desired changes.
Carol Lightowler BA (Hons)-Graduate Diploma in Integrative Counselling-Reg  MBACP(Accredited)- Integrative Counsellor -  Mobile 07931967109 -  Counselling in  Leeds  -  Couples Counselling - Counselling in Morley - Rewind Therapy - Counselling For Young People